I don’t know about you, but did you ever experience that you have written an email, no bounce back arrives in your inbox and you can be quite sure that the email you’ve written arrives in the inbox of the recipient – if it did not end up in the spam folder having been filtered out by the spam filter.
Assuming it didn’t end up in the spam folder, what are you doing if someone does not reply to you after a while? I myself am trying a polite second email, asking if all is ok and if my email arrived as I’d otherwise be happy to send it again. I think nothing wrong with this, is it? Maybe I try a third time, but then I usually give up, just being sad again asking myself, why people don’t have a few seconds to let me know that they have no interest in speaking to me. Which is totally fine. And in the end it would only help as I’d know the email arrived, I don’t have to bug this person again and I know that this person has no interest to speak at my event for example. Not answering an email is just rude in my eyes. It is like if you meet someone, want to say hello and the one in front of you just turns around without reacting or saying anything. How would you react to this and think of this person? Exactly!
I think it is even worse if you had an ongoing conversation with back an forth emails and then all of a sudden, without you knowing why, the one you had been talking to stops replying to your emails. I mean, yes, you might have written something that upsets the person or maybe something that the recipient did not like. In terms of business, for example, an offer that the one who got it finds unacceptable. But how easy is it to simply write back, say no, or even to say fuck off? I could live with this. I’d know where I am at then and it would help more than simply not replying anymore. Makes me
angry sad, that we think we can simply forget about politeness and manners, just because we are hiding behind computers and emails.
I myself reply to every email that is addressed to me personally. Sometimes only really short to say that I do not have interest in what was offered, but at least the one who has written, knows that I got it and read it. Even though he/she might not give a fuck about it. But I replied.
I think, how you treat someone shows your character as well and how you treat someone with your emails – not with what or how you write, but writing at all – is equally showing the character. I see this like you know this for many other things in life: treat everybody the way you want to be treated.
RT @marcthiele: I think the way you treat people shows your character. From face to face, but also sitting behind a computer. marcthiele.com/notes/the…Continue reading
Very good read and very true. twitter.com/marcthiele/sta…Continue reading
This. So much. twitter.com/marcthiele/sta…Continue reading
.@marcthiele Struggling w/ people not responding for week just right now. Very exhausting, very disappointing, hardly worth the effort. :(Continue reading
nice post Marc. Unfortunately I instantly now a ton of people that don´t care answering mails or stop answering all out of a sudden #rudeboys :)Continue reading
@marcthiele As long you don’t know the reason for sure, don’t be sad. How often it’s the spam filter or another banality. Email sucks.Continue reading
@jkphl actually I do not really care how it is meant to be. I am sure face to face these people would not act like this.Continue reading
Disagree, no one is obliged to reply just because I send an email. Email is not face to face. A phone call is closer to face to face. And does everyon…Continue reading
I see this completely different here. Same with phone calls. If I use this ways of communication to be reached, I should reply. As said: a short reply…Continue reading
ok. I AM THE WORST FOR ANSWERING EMAILS AND YOU KNOW IT.Continue reading
I interpreted your short message on FB different more along the lines of "if you treat me decent but behave like a jerk towards the waitress, I think …Continue reading
Yes. But you reply. 😘Continue reading
Yes. But reply. 😘Continue reading
I understand you see it differently - but there are many different characters. If you choose to be offended by the non-repliers that is ok for me. I a…Continue reading
Sure. One way to see it and act. I just spoke for me and how I see it (and this, obviously, is all I can do)Continue reading
So good your note! I would say I'm against the old school of money/power-misuses attitude (dienstleister denken) twitter.com/marcthiele/sta…Continue reading
@marcthiele rather we should get rid of hierarchy thinking in and outside a company and work together with motivationContinue reading
@marcthiele I even see many times people behaving rude via mail, as soon as you see them face to face they start to become humans againContinue reading
There are a lot of people who actually brag about the size of their inboxes and even post screenshots showing tens of thousands of unanswered emails. …Continue reading
Hmm somehow this went off without the "you". So now it is fixed and how it should have been, Stacey. ;)Continue reading